We are all familiar with "jealousy" This kind of sentiment because jealousy triggered by anxiety, irritability, pain, anger, and so people feel miserable, so jealousy is the people's psychological health, "killer." Jealousy is divided into two kinds, namely, rational and irrational jealousy jealousy.

1、Rational jealousy

What is the rational jealousy then? If you want someone to maintain a long-term contact, but because of your loved one paid the interest of others, you are so worried that the relationship between himself and his, then you will send out a rational jealousy.
For example, your loved ones may be faithless, but not with you distance, you will lose the opportunity to get along with him, or his own, thus, you can easily prove that, they will leave you . Will let you in all aspects of loss, so you will not like this feeling, so you have a serious sense of frustration, which is a rational jealousy.

In the emotion, the jealous is a universal a psychological feeling, even love each other deeply but also because of an event, one of the parties will still jealous. Rational jealousy will not lead to you to take the extreme approach, you encounter emotional problems, you will be to deal with love, that make up your own love, with a more perfect love to firmly locked in each other.

2、Irrational jealousy

There are some people feeling uneasy feeling of some kind would, after using extreme tactics, like Sherlock Holmes as clues to find each other, or tapping each other's phone, or peep at each other's messages, or even to send people to track each other's . These extreme tactics not only unhelpful to resolve the problem, but will speed up your original value of the family breakdown, which stems from "irrational jealousy." To produce non-rational mode of thinking that jealousy usually have the following:

1. "I have in regard to marriage, must be guaranteed to ensure that I am fond of each other only, and with the endless love to treat me."

2. "If I did not love the only cardiac object, I terrible, this kind of thing I am absolutely intolerable."

3. "If you love someone else moved to the heart, it shows my fault."

Of life, including emotional, fundamentally speaking, there is no guarantee, love is not marriage all, marriage is a way of life, no one will be whole life in love with you. Language and emotions to exchange each other's loyalty, there is no practical purpose. Then how to obtain the loyalty of marriage, then? You have to work wholeheartedly with, and partner to create a just able to accommodate your intimate relationship between the two sides, this intimate relationship and will operate very well, so let your lover will not want to create the same relationships with others, but also very pleased, and you live together.

3、A rational model of jealousy

Jealousy as an emotion, you do not go to eradicate it, want to maintain their own rational jealousy, but gradually overcoming irrational jealousy, or envy the non-rational into irrational jealousy. Rational mode of thinking that jealousy is as follows:

1. I very much hope that you will be able to stay on my side, and heart I am the only one person, but I have no reason to ask you must do this, or restrict yourself only one person have to create a good impression - I certainly hope very much forward to you this way, But you do not have to so.

2. I am very very love you, only love you are a human being. But you do not have to return with endless love to me. I certainly hope you do this, but you do not have to so.

3. If you leave me, or like someone else, of course I would be very painful. Once something happens, I will unconditionally accept themselves.

4. If you are using unfair approach to me, I will not condemning you, Instead, I will go to understand your feelings and motives, and with love to impress you, make you love me more.

Rational jealousy can save themselves a lot of emotional distress, and to activate your emotions in some of the most profound and moving, so that your marriage is more stable and well-being.